“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” – Abraham Lincoln
A coach is usually someone who has been in your shoes before and knows the way.
A critic may or may not have been in your shoes before, but there is no experience required to be a critic.
A coach makes comments – soft or harsh – with the purpose of helping you improve and become your best.
A critic does not care if you get better or not, they simply want to share their opinion of your work, your art, your character, you name it.
Think about it like this. When I got my flu shot, I let a nurse inject a little bit of the flu virus into me. It was a small attack on my body, but the purpose was to ultimately help me become immune to getting the flu. That’s coaching.
However, I would never let someone inject cancer cells into my body and believe that somehow it will help me keep from getting cancer. That’s a critic.
If you inject negativity or foolish criticism into your life, it will hurt you. There is no value in that. Instead, seek out coaching from those who have the experience and the love to help you become a better person, performer, athlete or leader.
Question: Can you identify the coaches vs. the critics in your life? How have you been able to tell the difference?